When you're having a bad day...

When you're having a bad day, acknowledge it and remind yourself that you've had days like this before and that they don't usually last and things do get better. Giving yourself a different perspective on what’s happening will help you cope better with challenging days.

Some things are better off ignored than attacked

Some things are better off ignored than attacked.

Attention is the oxygen of conflict. When you fight a problem, you breathe life into it. When you starve a problem of your attention, you suffocate it. In a surprising number of cases, the way to solve a problem is to ignore it.

Regardless of the situation...

Regardless of the situation we find ourselves in, we can choose how we respond to it. Even if we cannot change the situation itself, we can choose to change how we look at it and how we respond to it. And in our response lie our growth and our freedom.

Life is full of surprises.

Life is full of surprises. And that is a good thing. But by expecting the worst to happen, you complicate life and make it hard. So let go of the need to predict and control everything. "Stuff" happens and all you can really do is handling it the best you can when it does.

What we believe about something...

What we believe about something either allows us to take the steps to reach our goals or keep us stuck chained to the belief that what we want is not possible. But every belief started as a thought, and by our attention to it and constant repetition of it, it grew into a belief.

 

Creating the life you desire...

Creating the life you desire also means being able to ask for what you want. Don't be afraid to vocalize your needs. You'll be surprised at how often people will respond positively to you when you honestly and clearly communicate what you want.

Honor the friendships...

Honor the friendships that allow you to pick up from where you last left off, regardless of how long it's been since you connected. The friendships that survive hiatuses, silences and space, those are the connections that never die.

Thoughts and feelings...

Thoughts and feelings will come, they will stay, and then they will go. No thought or feeling stays forever. Be patient and know that whatever you are feeling, or whatever you are thinking, it will pass.

We all have a tendency to...

We all have a tendency to underestimate our resilience! Right now you have a 100% success rate at overcoming difficult situations. You are far more capable of overcoming tough times than you believe. You've done it before and you'll do it again.

We often overthink because...

We often overthink because we feel uncertain even scared of what could go wrong in the future. We feel that if we solve potential problems in our head that we'll be better prepared for the challenges if they happen. But that is just our mind tricking us and keeping us stuck.

When you struggle and fight...

When you struggle and fight against something that you can’t change, you prolong the negative feelings and the unhealthy thinking that comes along with it. What you resist will only persist.

If a decision is reversible...

If a decision is reversible and inconsequential, make it as soon as possible. Speed matters.

If a decision is irreversible and consequential, gather as much information as possible before deciding. Wait until the last possible moment. Being right matters.

Most of us get comfortable with...

Most of us get comfortable with our lives. So when change happens it can be a source of frustration, fear and stress. We prefer the security of what we know even when it's not what we want. But change is unavoidable, and how we react, determines the outcome we manifest.

 

Unfortunately the act of kindness...

Unfortunately the act of kindness can be forgotten in the chaos of our daily lives. But a single kind word, a simple gesture, a helping hand a surprise visit can brighten someone else's day. Kindness is a gift we all have to offer every day.

Stop looking behind...

Stop looking behind at what has happened and start looking in front of you at what is possible.

What I've learned is that...

What I've learned is that relapsing is part of recovering. There isn’t one simple road to healing. You may have to try different paths to find the one that works for you. If you're struggling right now remember, you’ve fought difficulty times before and you can do it again.

What you're thinking about...

What you're thinking about today is either helping you grow or holding you back. Give your attention to what is most important and what will move you forward. And make the decision to let go of what does not.

Whenever you find yourself looking back...

Whenever you find yourself looking back, don’t think of the pain you went through but rather the strength you gained. And although you’ve been through a lot, you’ve grown a lot too. You’ve come along way so give yourself credit for what you've done and continue to do every day.

 

Don't be your own enemy...

Don't be your own enemy, allowing negative thoughts and how they make you feel and act, hold you back. Instead load up on healthy thoughts - thoughts that help you feel and act better and you will in time create great things for your life.

Give yourself some...

Give yourself some kindness and understanding. Self-compassion during difficult times is vital for our mental well-being. Compassion for ourselves doesn't diminish our capacity to care for others. Rather it enhances our ability to be even more compassionate toward others.

Be open to all the options...

Be open to all the options that are available to you today and know that getting things wrong is part of getting them right. You have permission to change your mind. Just because you choose a direction doesn't mean you're committed to that path forever.

Sometimes we need to...

Sometimes we need to journey to the deepest, darkest, scariest, most painful places in order to reach the next level. That is what happened to me, but years later my life is better than ever and I love every day. And so if I can do it you can make your life better too.

Life won't look much different

 Life won't look much different while you stay within the limits of what you already know and do. Open your mind and allow new things to enter. When you have hope that tomorrow can be better, you can bear the hardships of today. You do have the power to make life better.

Recognize the power of...

Recognize the power of just one thing. One small step in the right direction today will allow you to take further steps tomorrow. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once. One small thing today will change where you start tomorrow.

Never let a few days of falling...

Never let a few days of falling back into old ways of doing things discourage you from continuing to re-establish the new changes you're making in your life. On hard days, practice self-kindness not self destruction. They are just bad days and we all get them, even me.

Sometimes adapting to upheaval requires...

Sometimes adapting to upheaval requires the willingness to try new things. However, we tend to resist change, especially when we feel threatened. But adaptation ,even to small changes is liberating. The more we learn to adapt the more we'll be able to cope with difficult things.

There is only one person...

There is only one person you will have a relationship with for all of your life and that’s yourself. So, you better start making sure that you’re a good companion. Live your best life by being kind to yourself, every day.

If you can't get positive thoughts...

If you can't get positive thoughts to change your negative ones, you can take positive actions to do it. Start doing things you would want to do if you were feeling good. After a few efforts you will find that your actions can change your thinking and in turn how you feel.

Other people may be more...

Other people may be more educated, skilled, or talented in one or another way, but there is something wonderful about you and what you have to offer which is just as equal. So, don't dim your light and diminish your gifts by idolizing everyone else’s and dismissing your own.