Be a Just-In-Time learner

Be a Just-In-Time learner instead of a Just-In-Case learner. If you want to achieve a goal, commit to something that puts your reputation, money, or comfort on the line. It will force you to focus and follow through.

It’s not the situation or person

It’s not the situation or person causing your pain; it’s your mind’s programming demanding reality match its expectations. Change your view, and you change your experience.

Our power to do

Hard things don’t get easier; you get stronger. You grow. You change. You become different. And if you show up for long enough, somewhere along the way, you fall in love with the struggle. You find peace in chaos. True flow. That is the magic of life.

They had drifted apart

They had drifted apart, as people do when they promise to stay in touch; the ones who are going to keep in touch don't need to promise.

The future doesn’t care

It doesn’t care whether you’re excited or filled with trepidation. It arrives, regardless. What an opportunity. Or a threat. Up to us.

Not being smart is a passive act

Not being smart is a passive act, remedied with learning, experience, and thought. Stupid is active, the work of someone who should have or could have known better and decided to do something selfish, impulsive, or dangerous anyway. The more experience, assets, and privilege we have, the less excusable it is to do stupid things. And at the same time, the more useful it is to announce that we’re not smart (yet).

Impatience is an expensive emotion

Becoming an empathic listener indeed takes time, but it doesn’t take anywhere near as much time as it takes to back up and correct misunderstandings when you’re already miles down the road, to redo, and to live with unexpressed and unsolved problems.