Why is improvement hard?

Part of the issue is that everyone wants to improve, but nobody wants to destroy. Change often requires destruction. Or, at least, unlearning. Let's call it gentle elimination. You may have to leave little habits, update current beliefs, and eliminate comfortable patterns. When you want better outcomes, your daily norms may need to change. The process of improvement is not just about adding things you like. Sometimes habits and patterns belong to who you were, not who you are trying to be. If you'd like something better, then a routine you are comfortable with may have to die

Talent is a gift

What we call luck is often not purely random, but rather the delayed byproduct of consistently putting yourself in good positions. Talent is a gift. Reliability is a choice. But every family, team, and organization needs reliability just as much as they need talent.

When we upgrade something

When we upgrade something in our lives, the thing we used to be satisfied with is no longer satisfying. That’s the nature of an upgrade. After a certain point, the only thing we’re buying is the way the upgrade makes us feel in the moment, not our satisfaction going forward. At some point, the best upgrade is the realization that we have enough.

Saying no to something is hard

Why are otherwise smart people trying to do too many things? The answer might surprise you. Saying no to something is hard because you immediately see what you might lose: the money, the connection, the possibility that something might come of it. So we say yes ... because the cost is hidden. Every yes quietly steals time from the most important thing you're already working on.

Judgemental Parents

People who grew up with judgmental parents often have a very distorted view of reality; they think the whole world is out there trying to get them, when it’s clear that everyone is focused on their own problems and that no one cares.

Adult friendships

Long-lasting adult friendships mostly happen between high-energy people because most other people are too tired to bother keeping in touch over the years.

The best goal in life

The best goal in life is actually something that you never fully reach, although the attempts alone will make you grow into who you want to be, and before you know it, you will also be surrounded by the people you wanted to be with.