Seeking a complement

One of the nicest things you can do for someone you care about is point them to an idea, a book, a talk or a tool that will amplify their work and help them get to where they’re going. It’s not easy. It means you understand their goals, see them for who they are, and care enough about their work to amplify it. That’s why filling in the missing piece with a complement is worth much more than an empty platitude or compliment.

Feelings have a magnetic quality

Feelings have a magnetic quality. This is literal, not metaphorical. Your nervous system broadcasts its internal state through biochemistry others can sense. When you shift from survival mode into regulation, the signal changes. People register it as presence. As calm. As safety. The nervous system you build in private becomes the energy you radiate in public.

To change your life

The fastest way to change your life is to rip yourself out of your (physical and digital) environment. Change everything overnight. The places you go, the accounts you follow, the info you consume, etc. It's difficult but it absolutely works.

The human tongue

The human tongue is a beast that few can master. It constantly strives to break free from its cage, and if left untamed, it will run wild and cause you grief.

The best investments

The best investments are the things no one can take away from you: knowledge, experience, mindset, attitude. The weakest investments are the things that you can lose at any time: status, emotions, material things.

Replace worrying with weird, forced laughter

Worrying is one of our biggest soul killers, and it never does us any good. Try this. When you feel worry coming on, and you have a strong urge to immerse yourself in negative thoughts, laugh. This trains the mind to associate worry with fun. You can’t lose.

Start taking small steps

If we move through our day acting as though we’re trying to avoid human interaction like a frightened bunny rabbit, what does that do to our self-perception? That’s right. It reinforces the reality that you’re not social. It’s in your head. You need to start flexing that social muscle and shifting the image you have of being disconnected. Start taking small steps to become more social, like reaching out to people, starting conversations, complimenting people, and asking questions.