Talent doesn’t feel like you’re amazing

Talent doesn’t feel like you’re amazing. It feels like the difficulties that trouble others are mysteriously absent in your case. Don’t ask yourself where your true gifts lie. Ask what other people seem weirdly bad at.

People really and truly cannot read your mind

People really and truly cannot read your mind. It’s easy to think that people are ignoring your wants or emotions because they don’t care about you. But they likely have no idea what those are. If you’ve told them, they’ve likely forgotten, and may need a reminder — they have their own whole crowded bubble of consciousness going on!

To have relationships with both kinds

The people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people. Ideally, you want to have relationships with both kinds, and reward them for their strengths, rather than getting mad at them for failing to do what they’re bad at.

Be soft in your practice

Be soft in your practice. Think of the method as a fine silvery stream, not a raging waterfall. Follow the stream, and have faith in its course. It will go its own way, meandering here, trickling there. It will find the grooves, the cracks, the crevices. Just follow it. Never let it out of your sight. It will take you.

You simply need to chill the fock out

You don't need to sit in a dark room conjuring up clever stories to rewire your brain so you become some wizard overnight. You simply need to chill the fock out. The secret isn't in a new story. It's in letting go of the need to be clever. The smartest thing you need to do is to get back to your present life.

Broken systems need your help

If your intention is to make things better, organizing the disorganized, connecting the disconnected and building community, you shouldn’t wait until the conditions are ideal. Broken systems need your help precisely because they’re broken.

Perfect days don't compound

Great outcomes aren't built on great days but on consistent ones. You can't just count the days when it's easy. Each day moves you closer to the goal. No day is a hero; no day is a villain. Perfect days don't compound. Consistent ones do.