What’s done is done!

Whatever has happened in our past has no power over this present moment, unless we allow it to. Our past is a learning experience, not an everlasting burden we keep carrying around with us. 

Live life 1 day at a time

Live like you are born everyday. Live like there will be no tomorrow. And give your best today. Cause my friend- You might not wake up tomorrow.

Treat yourself like something you need to...

Treat yourself like something you need to keep building up and improving on. You are the greatest project you will ever work on. The project will have weaknesses, start finding a solution to them. Be still green and growing not overripe and rotting. And you’ll never complete the project. No one does and that’s okay. Grow daily!

Make friends as often as you can

Make friends as often as you can. From business to dating, a good network will help you level up. It’s going to be your only true wealth.

One way to ensure you are making genuine progress is...

One way to ensure you are making genuine progress is to have well outlined measurable goals. People tend to fear doing this because that means they are also setting up parameters to reveal their failures. In this way, they can wander while believing progress is being made. And yet being brave enough to fail forward is one important step towards making progress.

When building habits...

When building habits, choose consistency over the content. The best book is the one you can’t put down. The best exercise is the one you enjoy doing every day. The best health food is the one you find tasty. The best work is the work you’d do for free.

Pick one thing

Pick one thing. Cultivate a desire. Visualize it. Plan a sustainable path. Identify needs, triggers, & substitutes. Tell your friends. Track meticulously. Self-discipline is a bridge to a new self-image. Bake in the new self-image. It’s who you are, now.

Always explore

Hard work and perseverance aren’t related. There’s always something to get better at, there’s always an interesting topic. There’s always a problem to solve. The joy is in the process. Always explore.

Life simply happens to them

Some never participate in the event. Life simply happens to them. They maintain themselves more or less by dint of stubborn resistance and resist with rage or violence anything that might tear them away from their dejected illusions of security.

Pickiness is a luxury of...

Pickiness is a luxury of having options. Talent is an illusion of options. Just because you could do well in multiple areas doesn't mean you have those options available to you. This illusory 'could' make people think they have options. You don't. You can't be picky at the bottom.

If you're not inspired scrolling

If you're not inspired scrolling down your timeline, you're definitely following the wrong people. Fix that.

​The Paradox of Abundance

Two things are true. First, it’s never been easier to access high-quality information. Second, we’ve never been so inundated with informational junk.

The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is

The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs.

Most times, not everyone on a...

Most times, not everyone on a team agrees with the course of action. Even when you have enough cognitive diversity in the room, people still keep their mouths shut because people in power tend to reward people who agree with them while punishing those who dare to speak up with a dissenting view.

The difference between good and great is...

The difference between good and great is often an extra round of revision. The person who looks things over a second time will appear smarter or more talented, but actually is just polishing things a bit more. Take the time to get it right. Revise it one extra time.

When my phone is right next to...

When my phone is right next to me while reading, I pick it up every 30 seconds and have the attention span of a pigeon. When it's ten feet away from me, I get obsessed with the book and basically forget about my phone.

When the friendship is...

When the friendship is true, absence makes the heart grow fonder. When friendship is fake, absence makes one's life better. In the long run, you need friendships that are built on mutual commitment rather than simple convenience.

It’s hard to break the worry habit if...

It’s hard to break the worry habit if you believe that your worrying has a positive purpose: Worrying helps you avoid bad things, prevents problems, prepares you for the worst. But once you realize that worrying is the problem, not the solution, you regain control of your mind.

If you think too much about a...

If you think too much about a problem it’s easy to over-complicate it and end up more confused than when you started. Go with what feels right for now. You can only make decisions from where you are now.

A critical quality for success is...

A critical quality for success is the ability to change your mind. A lot of ideas are bad until they're good. And a lot of ideas are good until they're bad. You only need to know the direction, not the destination. The direction is enough to make the next choice.

You don’t need to catch every break if...

You don’t need to catch every break if you’re willing to keep trying. Every winner has an archive of losses, but each attempt creates the chance for a victory. You need to be patient, but not passive. Active patience.

The unchanging element is change

The unchanging element is change— by mastering the first four elements, you can change the way you think and learn. You can always improve, grow, and extract more out of your education, yourself, and the way you live your life. Change is the universal constant that allows you to get the most out of living and learning.

Look back to see where ideas came from and...

Look back to see where ideas came from and then look ahead to discover where those ideas may lead. A new idea is a beginning, not an end. Ideas are rare— milk them. Following the consequences of small ideas can result in big payoffs.

Constantly create questions to...

Constantly create questions to clarify and extend your understanding. What’s the real question? Working on the wrong questions can waste a lifetime. Ideas are in the air — the right questions will bring them out and help you see connections that otherwise would have been invisible.

Fail to succeed

Fail to succeed. Intentionally get it wrong to inevitably get it even more right. Mistakes are great teachers — they highlight unforeseen opportunities and holes in your understanding. They also show you which way to turn next, and they ignite your imagination.

Don’t face complex issues head-on

Don’t face complex issues head-on; first, understand simple ideas deeply. Clear the clutter and expose what is really important. Be brutally honest about what you know and don’t know. Then see what’s missing, identify the gaps, and fill them in. Let go of bias, prejudice, and preconceived notions. There are degrees to understanding (it’s not just a yes-or-no proposition) and you can always heighten yours. Rock-solid understanding is the foundation for success.

What others will mainly remember is...

What others will mainly remember is our presence in their lives rather than the work we did.

If we don't change, we don't...

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean a giving up of familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, relationships that have lost their meaning.

As Dostoevsky put it, "Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most." The real fear should be of the opposite course.

People will surprise you

Be kind. You should do it simply to be decent, but do it even if you’re a ruthless mercenary because you have no idea where people will end up in 10 years. The balance of power is always shifting. People will surprise you.

Maintain the momentum

What you do on the bad days matters more than the good days. What you do when you don't feel like it — when you're not motivated, when everything seems hard — matters more to the ultimate outcome than what you do when you're motivated and it is easy. Maintain the momentum.

Love is just a...

Love is just a chemical thing that happens when you spend too much time with someone you do not despise. You will fall in love with 90% of women given enough time with them. You need to get the foundations right - it is the most significant decision.

A misunderstanding should never derail a...

A misunderstanding should never derail a friendship. It should strengthen it. If someone becomes your enemy after a misunderstanding - these aren't the type of friends you want in your circle. You can grow without them.

The faulty narrative I always tell myself is...

The faulty narrative I always tell myself is that someday I'm going find enough pieces in books that I'm going to put the puzzle together into an answer for all of these questions that I have —not just about terrible, sad things, like why people have to suffer or why our lives are diminished by the arrangement of the world, but also the wondrous things like love, and the attractions people feel for each other intellectually and otherwise, all of it. I always make the mistake, though, in thinking that I'm going to read my way to the answer. It’s only through my habitual disappointment with the philosophers that I am reminded that there are other experiences that have to happen in order for us to really know anything.

Metacognition is the capacity or skill to...

Metacognition is the capacity or skill to become aware of one’s own mental process. So on the one hand it seems kind of obvious, but if you say, today I’m going to try to notice and simply just notice a part of my mental process I had not yet been aware of. Now that’s interesting because what that is, it’s not just an observational thing. You’ll notice it opens doors to things you never thought of.

Remember to connect with...

Remember to connect with people now and then. In fact, pick up the phone, right now, and call a friend for no other reason than to say hi.

If you don’t get...

If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get that you don’t want.

A happy person isn’t someone who’s...

A happy person isn’t someone who’s happy all the time.  It’s someone who effortlessly interprets events in such a way that they don’t lose their innate peace.

The attachment to beliefs is...

The attachment to beliefs is the greatest shackle. To be free is to know that One does not know.

There will be no one like us when...

There will be no one like us when we are gone, but then there is no one like anyone else, ever. When people die, they cannot be replaced. They leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate—the genetic and neural fate—of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death.

Money can’t buy happiness, but the absence of...

Money can’t buy happiness, but the absence of money can cause unhappiness. Money buys freedom: intellectual freedom, freedom to choose who you vote for, to choose what you want to do professionally. But having what I call “fuck you” money requires a huge amount of discipline. The minute you go a penny over, then you lose your freedom again. If money is the cause of your worry, then you have to restructure your life.

More people determine the fates of others without having to...

More people determine the fates of others without having to pay the consequences. Skin in the game means you own your own risk. It means people who make decisions in any walk of life should never be insulated from the consequences of those decisions, period. If you’re a helicopter repairman, you should be a helicopter rider.

Reach out and...

Reach out and help others. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. Be a vessel, be the change, be the difference, or be the inspiration. Shine your light as an example. The world needs more of that. Be the reason people still believe in genuine intentions, gentle souls, and hearts of gold.

Most lucky events in life are...

Most lucky events in life are opportunities, not outcomes. The value of an opportunity changes depending on how it is treated. Without effort, good luck becomes a missed opportunity. With effort, good luck can become a life-changing event. You need luck and hard work. It's not either/or. It's both/and. The result will not walk through the door on its own.‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

You'll realize one day why the timing of...

You'll realize one day why the timing of everything in your life was perfect, why everything had to happen the way it did. To protect you, to guide you & redirect you to where you were meant to be. Trust the process of your evolution, it's all divine timing for your highest self.

Avoiding Stupidity is Easier Than Seeking Brilliance

Avoiding Stupidity is Easier Than Seeking Brilliance. The point is that most of us are amateurs but we refuse to believe it. This is a problem because we’re often playing the game of the professionals. What we should do in this case, when we’re the amateur, is to invert the problem. Rather than trying to win, we should avoid losing.

If criticism from...

If criticism from outside proves devastating, it is because it so readily joins forces with an infinitely more strident and more aggressive form of criticism that has long existed inside of us.

Imagine if you died today

Imagine if you died today. What would your obituary say? If you don’t like that answer, then you need to get off of your ass and get to work. As long as you are still breathing, there is more work to do. Go be somebody.

Every great opportunity has many...

Every great opportunity has many reasons why it could fail. You have to trust your ability to solve problems along the way. People who look for reasons why things won't work, struggle to take action. People who look for reasons why things will work—and solve problems as they arise—make things happen.

Mental toughness immediately increases when...

Mental toughness immediately increases when you find the right subject. You're more likely to stick with things when you're genuinely interested.

The bravest leaders and contributors aren’t worried about...

The bravest leaders and contributors aren’t worried about appearing afraid. It allows them to see the world more clearly.

Set goals that'll...

Set goals that'll make you shake in your knees and at the same time, light a fire under you.

One defeat doesn't make you a...

One defeat doesn't make you a loser. One success doesn't make you a winner. Life is about the continuous art of upgrading yourself daily.

Pain is largely determined by the...

Pain is largely determined by the mind’s expectation of pain. Remove the expectation and you can often remove the pain. Add expectation (i.e., tell yourself that "words are violence" for instance) and you will experience pain where none is necessary.

Our beliefs are part of a number of...

Our beliefs are part of a number of systems within our lives. If we believe that people will hate us, then we are more likely to behave in ways that make people hate us, thus justifying the belief. If we believe we will do well on a test, we are more likely to feel motivated and engaged on that test, thus causing us to do well.

Being pleasant and having a good attitude is a...

Being pleasant and having a good attitude is a simple way to become luckier. Opportunities come through people, and people are more likely to bring opportunities to people they like. It's hard to win if your attitude adds friction to every interpersonal experience.

Most people optimize for the...

Most people optimize for the day ahead. A few people optimize for 1-2 years ahead. Almost nobody optimizes for 3-4 years ahead (or longer). The person who is willing to delay gratification longer than most reduces competition and gains a decisive advantage.

The only disturbance there is...

The only disturbance there is a feeling of leaving one's comfort zone. If you aim for the better, fear not!

Know your limits

Know your limits, but operate without boundaries. Only you have the power to control your emotions. Use it.

To say “don’t judge” is close to...

To say “don’t judge” is close to impossible. We are human, judging is an instinct we have. In many cases, maybe we can realize we are judging and not make an evaluation of someone without further getting to know them.

If you’re truly great your results will...

If you’re truly great your results will show for it. Pointing out the inferiority of others is what delusional people with no results do to feel better about themselves. What other people can & can’t do is irrelevant to your process & your results.

Don’t be intimidated by...

Don’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.

There's nothing wrong with...

There's nothing wrong with watching Netflix. There's nothing wrong with playing video games. But if they prevent you from creating the future you want, there's something wrong. This is the case for most and they aren't aware of it.

Reflect upon your...

Reflect upon your blessings, of which everyone has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which everyone has some.

We often make choices based on...

We often make choices based on immediate outcomes. What can I do to experience a little joy in the next 30 minutes? What can I accomplish in the next hour? But if you always expect to get a little bit of reward for a little bit of effort, then you often overlook actions that lead to greater payoffs down the road. The relationship between input and output is rarely linear. The course of action that could provide greater happiness, meaning, or satisfaction, in the long run, may not make you happy in the next 30 minutes.

The things that matter most can't be...

The things that matter most can't be copied. You can copy goals, you can't copy discipline. You can copy ideas, you can't copy execution. You can copy answers, you can't copy understanding. You can copy thinking, you can't copy thinking for yourself.

The problem with obsessing over productivity is...

The problem with obsessing over productivity is that the kind of curiosity that leads to big breakthroughs rarely feels productive at the moment. Spend the best hours of your day on the biggest opportunity, not the biggest problem.

I think people are afraid

I think people are afraid. They don’t recognize the power of this rule. And they’re afraid that by going first and giving resources, giving time, giving attention, giving samples, and so on, they might just be losing that. They’re not cognizant of the fact that there’s such a strong rule in every human culture that says you must not take without giving in return.

You’re going to...

You’re going to die one day, and none of this is going to matter. So enjoy yourself. Do something positive. Project some love. Make someone happy. Laugh a little bit. Appreciate the moment. And do your work.

Work for the balance to...

Work for the balance to embrace the wonder and potential of the horizon while maintaining focus on what’s in front of us.

We have to be willing to do...

We have to be willing to do hard, laborious, ungratifying things today — the kind of things that make little sense in the short term — so we can enjoy exponential results in the future."

1. Independence - Stray away from people-pleasing tendencies and learn how to be true to yourself. Place your bets and see them through.

2. Curiosity - Although we might not know the exact path we should take (no one does at first), curiosity can lead us on the right track.

3. Resilience - It’s rare that anything works out the first time, or in the way you originally envisioned it.

Wisdom is knowledge gained from...

Wisdom is knowledge gained from experiences, and to be wise is to have deep insight and understanding. Here are some habits of wise people:

1. Rely on facts, not assumptions - Observe your thoughts and ask yourself, “How do I know what I’m thinking is true?”

2. Think from first principles - Constantly ask, “Is there a better way we can do this?”

3. Read a lot and read widely - Feed your brain as most mental stimuli come from learning about new things.

4. Learn from your mistakes - The smartest people in the world don’t necessarily make fewer mistakes. They just don’t let their mistakes go to waste.

If we are sincere in wanting to...

If we are sincere in wanting to learn the truth, and if we know how to use gentle speech and deep listening, we are much more likely to be able to hear others’ honest perceptions and feelings. In that process, we may discover that they too have wrong perceptions. After listening to them fully, we have an opportunity to help them correct their wrong perceptions. If we approach our hurts that way, we have the chance to turn our fear and anger into opportunities for deeper, more honest relationships.

The Greek language has...

The Greek language has 4 words for love — Agape: charitable love; Eros: sexual love; Philia: love between friends; and Storge: family love.

When it comes to status, we are...

When it comes to status, we are all investors. Some invest their identities in fashion brands; others invest their time in musicians so they can say they were fans from the early days, and others invest their travel chops in up-and-coming destinations so they can say they visited before it was popular. After all, there’s a unique kind of high status you get for staking your reputation on something before it was cool.

We tend to think that...

We tend to think that what we think is true. And because we think something is true, we ignore information that might tell us it’s not true.

Charles Darwin deliberately looked for thoughts that disagreed with his own. He wrote, “whenever a published fact, a new observation or thought came across me, which was opposed to my general results, to make a memorandum of it without fail and at once; for I had found by experience that such facts and thoughts were far more apt to escape from memory than favorable ones.” Darwin was out for truth, not to confirm his view of the world.

“If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change,” Marcus Aurelius said. “For I seek the truth, by which no one ever was truly harmed. Harmed is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance.”

It had long since come to...

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.

Nothing will last forever

Nothing will last forever, stop worrying so much. The ability to pick yourself up and move forward is essential. Things break, life happens. The choice is to get over vs. start over.

Take your time

Take your time. Recharge and come back stronger. After a defeat, accept the loss. Consider it a battle and prepare for the war. Improvise, adapt and overcome.

Hope is like a road in the...

Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence.

Life is like a...

Life is like a river. At first, you think that if you’re successful, you get to take many things out of the river, products people have made or ideas they’ve come up with. But eventually, in life, you realize that it’s not what you get to take out of the river, it’s what you get to put into the river.

People are insecure

People are insecure. Don't let them know about your smartness. They will start hating you without any reason. One of the smartest moves you can make is to let other people feel smarter than you.

Excellence is mundane

Excellence is mundane. Superlative performance is really a confluence of dozens of small skills or activities, each one learned or stumbled upon, which have been carefully drilled into habit and then are fitted together in a synthesized whole. There is nothing extraordinary or superhuman in any one of those actions; only the fact that they are done consistently and correctly, and all together, produce excellence.

Move more, with more...

Move more, with more intensity, and sit less. Your body and mind will thank you for the effort, not the comfort.

Just because people are kind-hearted and...

Just because people are kind-hearted and gentle-natured doesn't mean they're weak. Those are usually the ones who've endured the worst type of hell and come out the other end shining. Never confuse kindness for weakness - they've survived the worst battles alone and are strong.

You have to first understand yourself, when you...

You have to first understand yourself, when you do this, you won’t allow someone to have control over your thoughts and actions. You are peaceful because you will have no time to worry too much. When you quit worrying about someone who isn't worrying about you, you'll be at peace.

Your inner voice, soul, sixth sense...

Your inner voice, soul, sixth sense anything you call it, will let you know when you need to move on to a new chapter in life.

Be aware of the signal.

In pursuit of our goals...

In pursuit of our goals, we inevitably give up things that matter. We sleep less. We spend less time with our friends. We eat unhealthily. We skip workouts. We cancel dates. We miss dinner with the family. When it comes to living a meaningful life, the only scoreboard that matters is yours. Don’t let your ego get in the way of the person you really want to be or the life you really want to live.

Your network is very important to...

Your network is very important to your success in life. What money can not easily get, the good network can get it for you. Work on your cycle and build a great network.

I belong everywhere I go...

I belong everywhere I go, no matter where it is, or who I am with, as long as I never betray myself. The minute I become who you want me to be, in order to fit in and make sure people like me, is the moment I no longer belong anywhere.

Each day offers a...

Each day offers a fresh start, the chance to begin something that will move you forward. It’s not simply another day to get through. So, make it count. Do at least one thing today that moves you closer to how you want things to be in your life.

We accept the voice in our head as the...

We accept the voice in our head as the source of all truth. But all of it is malleable, and every day is new. Memory and identity are burdens from the past preventing us from living freely in the present.

Don't spend money in your mind before...

Don't spend money in your mind before you get it. Think about the investments you will make when you get it.

Nobody in the history of...

Nobody in the history of the world who spent their career following orders and playing by the rules accomplished anything that was both positive and worth remembering.

Between stimulus and response, there is a...

Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.

Be realistic about your...

Be realistic about your goals. Surround yourself with positivity. Acknowledge accomplishments and passions. Share what you have to offer. Don't be afraid to speak up. You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.

You want to deliver to the...

You want to deliver to the world what you would buy if you were on the other end. There is no ethos, in my opinion, that is better for any lawyer or any other person to have. By and large, the people who have this ethos win in life and they don’t win just money, not just honors. They win the respect, the deserved trust of the people they deal with, and there is huge pleasure in life to be obtained from getting deserved trust.

If you watch the finals or championship in any...

If you watch the finals or championship in any sport, every team goes through a moment where they want to quit. Every time. That is indescribable. How about not quitting? How about you keep doing your job and matter of fact, let’s do it even better. Let’s turn it up a notch when it gets hard.

You can think about ideas and...

You can think about ideas and possibilities or limitations. You can get jealous or you can get inspired. There is a pattern to what you think. Break that pattern if it doesn't serve your purpose.

Always leave room for the...

Always leave room for the unexpected. A buffer of time, a little extra money, a reserve of goodwill. You won't be maximizing every opportunity or squeezing out every last dollar, but what you lose in reward, you gain in safety.

Survival is the highest return of all.

You don't choose the...

You don't choose the family you're born into. You do choose the family you create. Do well by your future offspring because they have no power. Choose for them a good mother/father.

8 hour workdays are a...

8 hour workdays are a waste of time and unproductive. You're better off doing 2-4 hours of focused work per day. And spend the rest of your day resting, reading books, learning, working out,  and recharging your batteries for the next day.

Depression isn’t always looking and...

Depression isn’t always looking and feeling sad. Sometimes it’s lack of motivation, excessive sleeping, poor eating habits, unexplainable anger/easily irritated, low self-esteem, no strive to do things you normally do. Tell your mind that you're gonna make it even if you're going through the hardest of times. Your subconscious is always listening. And it believes you.

In unhealthy cultures, people see rest as...

In unhealthy cultures, people see rest as taking your foot off the gas pedal. You don't stop until you've pushed yourself to the brink of exhaustion. In healthy cultures, people see rest as a vital source of fuel. You take regular breaks to maintain energy and avoid burnout.

A friend is someone you...

A friend is someone you enjoy. You can call to catch up without scheduling a time. A good friend is someone you count on. You can call for help no matter how much time has passed.

Life is easier when you know what...

Life is easier when you know what you want—but most people don't take the time to figure out what they want. It's not that we are completely lost, but our efforts are often slightly misdirected. People will work for years and ultimately achieve a lifestyle that isn't quite what they were hoping for—often, simply, because they never clearly defined what they wanted. An hour of thinking can save you a decade of work.

"I'm just being honest" is a poor excuse for...

"I'm just being honest" is a poor excuse for being rude. Candor is being forthcoming in what you say. Respect is being considerate in how you say it. Being direct with the content of your feedback doesn't prevent you from being thoughtful about the best way to deliver it.

We stick to the wrong...

We stick to the wrong thing quite often, not because it will come to fruition by further effort but because we cannot let go of the way we have decided to tell the story, and we become further enmeshed even by trying to make sense of what entraps us, when what is needed is a simple, clean breaking away.

Groundedness does not eliminate passion...

Groundedness does not eliminate passion, productivity, or all forms of striving and ambition. Instead, it is about ditching an omnipresent and frantic anxiety to begin living in alignment with your innermost values, pursuing your interests, and expressing your authentic self in the here and now. When you are grounded there is no need to look up or down. You are where you are, and you hold true strength and power from that position. Your success, and the way in which you pursue it, becomes more enduring and robust. You gain the confidence to opt out of the consumer-driven rat-race that leaves you feeling like you are never enough.

The thing that’s very clear is that...

The thing that’s very clear is that when people hear information that comports with whatever their tribe believes, or whatever their tribe supports, they’re willing to accept it without doing a lot of digging into the quality of the source, the quality of the information, the implications of the rest of the information that goes with it. Anything that challenges what their tribe believes they are going to be more dismissive of whether or not it comes from a quality source.

People who see change as a threat to...

People who see change as a threat to the past reject new ideas and get left behind. People who treat change as a challenge in the present embrace new ideas and adapt. People who anticipate change as an opportunity for the future initiate new ideas and lead.

It’s hard to break the worry habit if...

It’s hard to break the worry habit if you believe that your worrying has a positive purpose: Worrying helps you avoid bad things, prevents problems, prepares you for the worst. But once you realize that worrying is the problem, not the solution, you regain control over your worry.

Recognizing something positive in...

Recognizing something positive in difficult times helps to move you forward. Struggle and strife are standard accessories with life. So, when they do arrive at your door, you can either get swept away by an emotional avalanche or see the situation through a clearer lens.

Over the years...

Over the years, I've learned that the first idea you have is irrelevant. It's just a catalyst for you to get started. Then you figure out what's wrong with it and you go through phases of denial, panic, regret. And then you finally have a better idea and the second idea is always the important one.

We often hold back from...

We often hold back from speaking up because we worry about what others might think of us. But it's time to break away from that. "Imagine the relationships you could cultivate and the opportunities you could discover if you spoke up and reached out. Digging deeper in your interactions, even when it’s uncomfortable, opens up a wealth of new possibilities."

Start with little...

Start with little things. Attend to the practical matters in your life. Bring your life into greater harmony. Do not try to make everything beautiful, quiet and peaceful. This is not what we mean. What we mean is bringing things into right order.

Every student needs a...

Every student needs a teacher. Every traveler needs a guide. Every explorer needs a map. You have all of these now. Take heart. Now you must find the courage and the determination to proceed. Do not become fixated on the great spiritual assistance that you have. Rather, become focused on solving problems today and tomorrow and the day after. Solve a little problem today and you will be able to solve a greater one tomorrow.

Only a few people are genuinely...

Only a few people are genuinely happy for your wins. The rest don't care or resent you. That's why it's important to keep your best friends squad small. But it's more important to ensure that you're your own best friend.

Find a partner who is ready to build with you

It is not about finding perfection in another person, it is about realizing when you come across an undeniable connection that nourishes your being and matches the type of support you are looking for. Getting lost in the idea of perfection is a hindrance. Being with someone who is committed to going through the ups and downs of life together is truly priceless.

When two people embrace their imperfections and commit to growing into better versions of themselves, it will naturally enhance the happiness they share in the relationship.

Nobody is rooting for you to...

Nobody is rooting for you to fail. You may succeed. You may fail. But, for the most part, nobody cares one way or the other. This is good. The world is big and you are small, which means you can chase your dreams with little worry for what people think.

There's nothing wrong with...

There's nothing wrong with taking feedback personally. Taking it personally shows you're taking it seriously. Getting upset isn't a sign of weakness or defensiveness. It's a sign that you care. The key is to make sure your ego doesn't stand in the way of your learning.

Friendships are more important than...

Friendships are more important than we realize. The closer the friendship the more it matters. Friendships protect us against disease, cognitive decline, and embed us with a sense of trust in the community. They also require constant reinforcement to maintain their strength.

Start where you are now

Start where you are now. Use what you have now. Do what you can now. The Future will take care of itself. Keep Going.

You will be broken, then you will be...

You will be broken, then you will be blessed. Who has never been broken is the most broken. Imagine how fragile you’d be had you not overcome adversity. Who has never been broken has not yet discovered his weak points, he is littered with weakness & has developed no strength.

The important thing about friends is that...

The important thing about friends is that you need to have them before disaster befalls you. One reason is that, as we shall see later, people are only likely to make the effort to help you if they are already your friend. We are all much less likely to help strangers or people we know only slightly – despite what we sometimes claim. Making friends, however, requires a great deal of effort and time.

There are some people whose...

There are some people whose confidence outweighs their knowledge, and they’re happy to say things which are wrong. And then there are other people who probably have all the knowledge but keep quiet because they’re scared of saying things.

There are hundreds of paths up the...

There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading in the same direction, so it doesn't matter which path you take. The only one wasting time is the one who runs around and around the mountain, telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.

Being yourself is a...

Being yourself is a continuous effort. There is always another expectation placed upon you, another person pulling you toward their preferences, another nudge from society to act a certain way. It's a daily battle to be yourself, not merely what the world wants you to be.

Happiness is a choice that...

Happiness is a choice that you make every single day. Irrespective of your external circumstances, you can choose to be blissful. Putting a condition on your own happiness, is sure shot way of living a miserable life. Look up. Have a Grin. Be grateful. Choose happiness.

Beware of destination addiction: the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are!! 

Living without regrets is...

Living without regrets is freeing. Rather than spending your time looking back, you can spend your time moving forward. Rather than obsessing about what could have been, you can take that energy and create what you want for the future. Rather than allowing something negative to define you, you can choose to reframe it into a springboard to achieve your dreams.

Being your best self is...

Being your best self is not the absence of problems, it’s actually taking on larger problems. But I’d chose those challenges & problems any day over the challenges & problems that come with doing nothing.

We cannot control our luck—good or bad—but...

We cannot control our luck—good or bad—but we can control our effort and preparation. Luck smiles on us all from time to time. And when it does, the way to honor your good luck is to work hard and make the most of it.

In many cases, improvement is...

In many cases, improvement is not about doing more things right, but about doing less things wrong. Don't look for things to add. Look for things to eliminate.

An important part of freedom is...

An important part of freedom is not having to make sacrifices for people who don't have to make sacrifices for you. The freedom that comes from being feared is tempting for people who have suffered that fear that themselves.

How we spend our time is...

How we spend our time is how we spend our days. How we spend our days is how our life goes. How our life goes determines whether we thought it was worth living.

History is filled with accounts of people who...

History is filled with accounts of people who held an optimistic belief others thought unlikely, or even impossible. This optimistic previsualization is a necessary component of change. Since we can not be certain of the future, optimism is only a belief -- a stance that could be incorrect. On the surface, an optimistic belief might seem no more valid than the stance of pessimism. But the deep history of new ideas makes it very clear that the optimistic stance of believing something is possible is a requirement to make anything new real, and is thus more powerful than pessimism. In the long run, optimists shape the future.

To imagine is really the first step in...

To imagine is really the first step in creating anything. Therefore an essential chore for making a future we want to live in, is to imagine what it is like and how we get there. That plausible path is a form of optimism. Believing it is possible makes it more likely to happen. When hurdles and setbacks arise -- and they will -- the belief in its possibility serves as motivation.

Consuming information is not the same as...

Consuming information is not the same as acquiring knowledge. No idea could be further from the truth. Learning means being able to use new information. The basic process of learning consists of reflection and feedback. We learn facts and concepts through reflecting on experience—our own or others'. If you read something and you don’t make time to think about what you’ve read, you won’t be able to use any of the wisdom you’ve been exposed to.

The only 3 things you really own are...

The only 3 things you really own are your soul, your blood, and your brain.

Do not sell them.

Lying to get quicker...

Lying to get quicker results, you’ll pay a massive price. You loan out your peace to maintain those results. With truth you have peace, you can’t be ‘found out’ no matter what angle they look at. Lies can only exist when perceived at certain angles.

Different meanings can be...

Different meanings can be assigned to the same events. Look for evidence of how the world is encouraging you, and you will find it. Look for evidence of how the world is burdening you, and you will find it. Choose an explanation that empowers you.

Know what you...

Know what you want.

Follow a trajectory where what you want is a possible outcome. Build a system to incrementally improve your ability to follow that trajectory.

Trust yourself. Enjoy the outcomes. Repeat.

If you want a significant change in...

If you want a significant change in your results, then you probably need a significant change to your strategy. Working harder on your current strategy is unlikely to move the needle.

Before you work harder, work on the right thing. Play better games. Win better prizes.

Even if you cannot change all the...

Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Don’t complain about the people you’re choosing to keep in your life.

Choice is a key component of

Choice is a key component of enjoying life, even if that is just choosing to be happy with your life as it is.

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear. So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.

It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built, not what you got but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.

What will matter is not your memories but the memories that live in those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

It’s all a state of...

It’s all a state of mind. Success begins and ends with your mindset. Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. One allows you to develop the skills needed to succeed in what you want. The other believes you either have those skills and attributes or you don't.

The best business ideas have yet to be...

The best business ideas have yet to be tried. The best books have yet to be written. The best relationships have yet to be formed. It's not too late. The space of possibilities is endless. The most interesting terrain remains unexplored.

Travel and tell no one...

Travel and tell no one. Find a partner and tell no one. Live happily and tell no one. People ruin beautiful things.

Most suffering comes from...

Most suffering comes from wanting others to do things differently. Peace is accepting we are not required to change others. We can only inspire.

How to avoid regret?

A day will come when you have that which you have been praying for. Your life now may seem like a big waiting game, but understand that everything that happens up until that point is unfolding in preparation for that day. How to avoid regret: Stop thinking you have unlimited time.

It's very important to know that...

It's very important to know that others are not in tune with your thoughts always. Build awareness of that when you do anything. It's the impact, not the intention. It's the impact of your behavior and not your intent that matters to people. Learn to lead with impact, not just intention.

Ultimately, you have to...

Doctors won’t make you healthy. Nutritionists won’t make you slim. Teachers won’t make you smart. Gurus won’t make you calm. Mentors won’t make you rich. Trainers won’t make you fit. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility. Save yourself.

Some tolerance is...

Some tolerance is necessary, but not all tolerance is equal. That is to say, some tolerance is beneficial, whilst other forms of tolerance are positively life negating - telling the differences between these types of tolerance is key.

Lying clogs much...

Lying clogs much mental bandwidth. It takes processing power to come up with the fabrication, remember it, manage it, act differently, etc. It’s heavy baggage. It wastes so much energy to carry. Truth takes no memory or processing. Just tell it how it is, describe reality aloud.

When you get all that...

When you get all that you wanted, you discover you didn't actually need it. Your life's needs are simple. Joy lies is simple experiences. It's us who complicate things and chase a life of greed.

Focusing on past accomplishments creates obstacles to...

Focusing on past accomplishments creates obstacles to success in the present. If you're still talking about something great you did 20 years ago like it was yesterday, your ego is getting in the way. What you did in the past makes a good story. What you're doing now makes a difference.

Don't make big decisions under the influence of...

Don't make big decisions under the influence of a strong emotion. Avoid doing this especially during the night, when you are already vulnerable and emotional. Big decisions takes time and clarity of mind. So take all the time to gain clarity especially if it's a life changing decision. Wake up the next morning and think if you are feeling the same.

Letting go isn’t about...

Letting go isn’t about forgetting the past – it’s about having the strength to embrace the present and all that is new and different in this day. Happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a vacation, a job, or money. It starts with your thinking and what you tell yourself every day.

Learn from others' mistakes

Learn from others' mistakes. It's the only way to make your journey better. Don't waste time criticizing the choices of others, instead learn from their choices and apply that knowledge to your journey.

You will go through...

You will go through different phases in life. Your life is a chapter book. Let each just chapter end as it's meant to be. Reflect and keep moving forward. Different phases are like seasons. They are here to take something to give back something. Don't fear the changes, embrace it. Fear won't save you. Face those phases, it'll make you stronger.

Every opportunity is attached to...

Every opportunity is attached to a person. Opportunities do not float like clouds in the sky. They’re attached to people. If you’re looking for an opportunity — including one that has a financial payoff — you’re really looking for a person.

It’s not up to you to convince others to...

It’s not up to you to convince others to change their way of thinking. It's your job to live by example and let others see the way you’re choosing to think and live. They will then see the rewards that come as a consequence of your thinking and behaving.

I rarely feel rushed when...

I rarely feel rushed when I am working on the most important thing. The act of making progress on what matters—even if it's small—is calming. It's such a simple idea: Simply do the most important thing first and you rarely feel like you don't have enough time for what matters.

Don't try to be interesting..

Don't try to be interesting. Be a lifelong learner, work on something bigger than yourself, make it the intention to make 1 person laugh a day. And an interesting personality is a byproduct.

Appreciate every moment you have with...

 Appreciate every moment you have with the people you love. You never know when those moments are going to stop. Enjoy your loved ones. Time will one day be the separator.

When you get to a place of...

When you get to a place of acceptance, it's not that you no longer feel the loss of something anymore. But you no longer resist the reality of your situation. And most importantly you stop trying to make it something that it isn't. That's acceptance.

Any relationship worthwhile is...

Any relationship worthwhile is one where you receive joy and give of yourself. When those you love ask for you to give, be there for them in the best way you can.

Stereotypes, though sometimes...

Stereotypes, though sometimes cruel, do not spawn out of thin air. Humans are pattern recognition machines, constantly scanning for consistencies. Pretty much all stereotypes hold partial validity and can be traced to a explainable cause.

Don't wait for others to...

Don't wait for others to complete you. That is not how love works. First learn how to love yourself,  then love others. There are no shortcuts to self acceptance. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

When it's over, I want to...

When it's over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms. When it's over, I don't want to wonder if I have made of my life something particular, and real. I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened, or full of argument. I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.

Strangely, life gets harder when...

Strangely, life gets harder when you try to make it easy. Exercising might be hard, but never moving makes life harder. Uncomfortable conversations are hard, but avoiding every conflict is harder. Mastering your craft is hard, but having no skills is harder. Easy has a cost.

Failure is a...

Failure is a one-time expense. Regret is an ongoing expense. Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

If you seek influence and...

If you seek influence and respect. Build a life that's desirable to most. And be the kind of man others want to emulate. If nobody wants to be like you, everything you say will be ignored.

Take pride in who...

Take pride in who you are. Every dark night, every “setback”, all of it got you to this exact moment. You beat all of it. That’s amazing, you’ve come so far.

People can’t feel what you are...

People can’t feel what you are going through. They aren’t living your life!  So, let go of what they say about you. There is great freedom in leaving others to their opinions. And there is a huge weight lifted when you take nothing personally.

Sometimes you must act before...

Sometimes you must act before you are ready. We often wait too long before we take action, especially with no outside pressure. We let opportunities go past because we think we have time. When the opportunity is there take it. Tomorrow is promised to no one. Ready is a lie. You'll never be ready. Start messy and adjust – just like everyone else.

Your perception of what’s happening around you is...

Your perception of what’s happening around you is cultivated through your thoughts and feelings. When things seem dim, it’s because your identification with only the mind as a source of wellbeing is allowing you to see it as such. Take a retreat from the mind with mindfulness.

Hungry is different than...

Hungry is different than greedy. Diligently focus on your journey, allow and encourage others the same inspiration. Stay hungry, not greedy.

Social media has stunted our ability to...

Social media has stunted our ability to reinvent our thinking, because our ideas are increasingly cumulative: Every opinion we’ve ever posted online is memorialized. With such a well-documented history of beliefs, changing your mind on something important or controversial can feel like weakness and open you up to public criticism. The solution to this is to take most of your opinions off the electronic grid.

Go alone to go...

Go alone to go faster. Go together to go far. To make it far in the journey, you'll need other's help and their wisdom. And life is a long journey. You need other people. Don't be a lone wolf. You won't survive much longer.

Stop trying to make everyone else...

Stop trying to make everyone else like you, you don't even like everyone else. When you live to please others for validation you end up empty of life because you've sacrificed what's best for you for what's best for them. Be selfish with your life, it's YOURS!

If you are the creative type...

If you are the creative type, you get bombarded with too many thoughts and ideas all the time. Writing your thoughts down is the best way to organize them. It helps you capture your ideas, process your feelings, and stay distraction-free. Organize your thoughts.

Don’t let a failed plan...

Don’t let a failed plan ruin the rest of your day. Take it in. Take a moment. Regroup. Refocus, and move forward the best you can.

Unless you try to do something beyond...

Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow. If you don't challenge yourself, you will never realize what you can become. A huge part of your growth will come from consistently challenging yourself.

People can’t feel what...

People can’t feel what you are going through. They aren’t living your life!  So, let go of what they say about you. There is great freedom in leaving others to their opinions. And there is a huge weight lifted when you take nothing personally.

If you can change your...

If you can change your perception, you can change your emotion and this can lead to new ideas. Logic will never change emotion or perception.

It’s not so surprising that...

It’s not so surprising that attention can occasionally distort our knowledge of things. We’re all familiar with the experience of overthinking something. If you’ve ever been engaged in a long and complicated project, you’ll know what it’s like to spend all of your attention on one thing, and be left with a vague feeling that you now understand it much less than when you started.

Broadcasting your personal life only leads to...

Broadcasting your personal life only leads to a one sided gateway for external factors to flood in, which you of course have no control over. Date in private. Love in private. Be happy in private. Live in private. Make money in private. Take your losses in private. Rebuild yourself in private.

Every person has 3 Pieces

Every person has 3 Pieces

1. Who they think they are

2. Who they actually are

3. Who they want to be

The goal is work until these 3 pieces are exactly the same

People come &

People come & go.  That's Life.  Who cares.  Focus on your Mission.  And Ensure it Outlasts you. SUSTAIN even after you're  Dead & gone.

Sometimes the healing is in the...

Sometimes the healing is in the staying. Sometimes the healing is in the leaving. You're always only taking your next best step, not allowing what has taken place in your past or what could happen in your future over rule your choice now. Moving forward from any difficult time is  about making small steps - learning new ways to do things as you go along.

The biggest obstacles you will ever have to...

The biggest obstacles you will ever have to overcome are your own thoughts. You aren't responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you are responsible for undoing the debilitating thinking patterns these undesirable situations create.

Asking instead of...

Asking instead of making assumptions eliminates drama. Enlighten yourself with kindness and humbleness towards every doubtful situations by being consistent open minded with questioning ability will solve halfway difficulty arising from it. Question it. Understand it. Defeat it. That's the way to challenge our challenges.

Not everyone will see the work you've done to...

Not everyone will see the work you've done to get to where you are now. But that doesn't matter because the work you've done in your life is for you, not them. When you are down, it feels sometimes like you have to stay that way. But the truth is you can change how you feel by choosing what you do. You don’t have to be fearful of what might be around the corner or depressed about your prospects for a better future.

Give yourself permission to say...

Give yourself permission to say no to the obligations and musts of others in your life, so that you can say "yes" to the things that make you feel good. Healing doesn't mean you go back to the way things were, but rather allow what is now to take you forward to a life that is better.

This day we're greater & more...

This day we're greater & more capable than we've ever been before. So take a moment and give yourself credit for how far you've come and just how much you've achieved. Don't underestimate yourself, you probably never thought you'd get this far - I know I didn't. Let's keep going.

Recognizing something positive in...

Recognizing something positive in difficult times helps to move you forward. Struggle and strife are standard accessories with life. So, when they do arrive at your door, you can either get swept away by an emotional avalanche or see the situation through a clearer lens.

Life is constantly changing and...

Life is constantly changing and so are you. But when hard times come to visit you can get trapped in your head thinking that the outside world needs to change before you can. The truth is that when good things happen it’s because you’ve found the goodness within you not outside.

Make your goals manageable

Make your goals manageable. Setting unrealistic goals and taking on too much can lead to burnout. Avoid overloading by setting smaller, attainable goals that will get you where you want to be without overwhelming you along the way.

Change has the ability to...

Change has the ability to catch up with you at some point in your life. There is no avoiding it because it will find you, challenge you, and force you to reconsider how you live your life.

When discomfort arises within...

When discomfort arises within us, we either try to push it away or fix it by altering something in our outside world.  But most of the time the discomfort is thought created, blended with emotions of fear, worry or insecurity. Life hasn’t created it, our mind has.

Asking and getting help is the...

Asking and getting help is the first step on our journey to a better way of living. There is no shame in asking for help when it's needed for anything. Don't suffer in silence. The purpose of forgiveness is not to absolve someone of whatever they have done against you; but to free yourself from the pain and the anger that is keeping you stuck. When you forgive, you are better able to let go of the past and keep moving forward with your life.

Your mind can be a...

Your mind can be a battleground. A place hidden from others where the toughest of battles goes on daily. And when you allow self-defeating thoughts to dwell in your mind, you will think yourself into endless heartache, even depression. But you can change the way you think. Because most of life’s greatest lessons are learned through difficult experiences. You may have to hurt to know, you may have to fall to rise and you may have to lose it all to gain the life you want.

Quit the complaining...

Quit the complaining. While it's okay to express feelings of discontent sometimes, you have to be careful not to let it become a regular thing. Using positive thinking as a first response to something not going your way will help you change your situation and move forward.

Stop comparing yourself to...

Stop comparing yourself to others. Get real. Setting unrealistic expectations sets you up for failure. Unfortunately, success isn't an overnight thing, so burdening yourself with unrealistic expectations and deadlines will only lead to failure and disappointment. Instead, set realistic, small goals that constantly make you feel like you're winning.

Take more...

Take more responsibility. It's okay to just admit that you didn't achieve a goal. The more you force yourself to be self-aware and held accountably, the more you can strive for change. Taking responsibility instead of looking to escape will help you recognize which areas of your life can be improved. Change is the first step to breaking bad habits in your daily life.

Never over-think a...

Never over-think a dilemma. Answers only come when your mind is relaxed. Space allows things to fall into place and a calm attitude yields the best results. Moving forward from any difficult time is  about making small steps - learning new ways to do things as you go along. You're always only taking your next best step, not allowing what has taken place in your past or what could happen in your future over rule your choice now.

Learning how to believe in...

Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities. At times it may be difficult to grasp  because you’ve been conditioned throughout your life to doubt yourself and your abilities. But you can retrain your mind to get rid of doubts and build self-confidence. Give yourself permission to say no to the obligations and musts of others in your life, so that you can say "yes" to the things that make you feel good.

When you struggle and...

When you struggle and fight against something that you can not change, you prolong the negative feelings and the unhealthy thinking that comes along with it. What you resist will only persist.

Do you give yourself credit for...

Do you give yourself credit for how far you've come and just how much you've achieved? Don't underestimate yourself, you probably never thought you'd get this far - I know I didn't. We are greater than we know and more capable than we've ever been before. Keep moving forward.

Never worry about what...

Never worry about what others think.  Focus on what you think. Worry just steals your life. If you're worried about something today, I'm not going to say "Don't worry" as you can't just turn it off. What I will ask is that you become aware of what the worry is bringing into your day. That's the work.

Be present - that means...

Be present - that means no overthinking, future projecting or ruminating. Being present in hard times is no more than agreeing that what is happening is happening. Accepting that we're in it whether we like it or not saying "Yes this is so and this is hard but I'm present"

Creating the life you desire also means...

Creating the life you desire also means being able to ask for what you want. Don't be afraid to vocalize your needs. You'll be surprised at how often people will respond positively to you when you honestly and clearly communicate what you want.

You are not what has happened to...

You are not what has happened to you, but what you choose to become. However, it  takes courage to leave the past behind and take that first step forward. But in doing so, you find the way out of the dark times and into the light of new and better ones.

You want something from...

You want something from someone, make it clear right from the beginning, don’t waste their time with mind games.

Accepting this present moment doesn’t mean...

Accepting this present moment doesn’t mean we accept that we will be here forever but that we are here right now.  More stress comes from wanting the present moment to be something that it isn't than anything else. Move forward from acceptance not resistance and denial.

Your brain is wired to...

Your brain is wired to avoid discomfort. That's why it talks you out of doing uncomfortable things. But avoiding discomfort now leads to MORE discomfort in the future. Do something to get yourself out of your comfort zone this week!

You must learn to...

You must learn to outright ignore people. You won’t get far if you take time to respond to every person that comes at you. Your response to attacks should be scarce. Assign your attackers the default position of insignificance.

Where you are now, whatever your...

Where you are now, whatever your situation is, there is always a way out. It might require a different way of thinking or developing new skills. So, put the past behind you as you can't change it, but you can change your present and when you do, you change your future.

If you're constantly looking to the future for...

If you're constantly looking to the future for something better, you will find that better times always feel out of reach. Now is the only time that you will find better, so seek it out, it's there. Your mind will tell you something different but don't let that stop you looking.

Recognizing something positive in difficult times helps to...

Recognizing something positive in difficult times helps to move you forward. Struggle and strife are standard accessories with life. So, when they do arrive at your door, you can either get swept away by an emotional avalanche or see the situation through a clearer lens.

Don’t let what happened in the...

Don’t let what happened in the past influence your present life. If you’re still carrying the burden of your past troubles into the present, you won't be able to use today to create the better future you want. Because most of life’s greatest lessons are learned through difficult experiences. You may have to hurt to know, you may have to fall to rise and you may have to lose it all to gain the life you want.

You may have been through some...

You may have been through some hard times, but guess what? You are still here! You are still breathing and carrying on. Somehow or other, you got through it and got yourself back on track. You’ve learned that you really can handle any situation.

Moving forward from any difficult time is...

Moving forward from any difficult time is about making small steps - learning new ways to do things as you go along. You're always only taking your next best step, not allowing what has taken place in your past or what could happen in your future over rule your choice now.

We can't avoid...

We can't avoid unexpected events landing in our lives, that's life. What we can do is choose how we respond to them. It is what we choose to do that either result in us being defined by the event or the event being merely an experience we change and grow from.

When you become fed up with...

When you become fed up with your current situation starting over can be the best thing for you. But starting over means letting go of what was, what didn’t work and confronting those fears that don’t deserve to rule your life anymore.

When we live our lives according to...

When we live our lives according to our beliefs, old memories, fears and early childhood conditioning we get lost in a life that appears to be about struggles, challenges, anxiety and fear. Take back your freedom by changing how you think, talk and act in the present.

The big changes are important, but...

The big changes are important, but it's the little subtle ones, the choices we make every day that over time has the greatest impact on the quality of our lives.

Life is constantly changing and...

Life is constantly changing and so are you. But when hard times come to visit you can get trapped in your head thinking that the outside world needs to change before you can. The truth is that when good things happen it’s because you’ve found the goodness within you not outside.

Dreams are wonderful, but...

Dreams are wonderful, but you shouldn’t sacrifice your day-to-day happiness for the hope of happiness in some distant future. Reaching the destination is not the success part; the journey is. Every step is a destination.

The biggest obstacles you will ever have to...

The biggest obstacles you will ever have to overcome are your own thoughts. You aren't responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you are responsible for undoing the debilitating thinking patterns these undesirable situations create.

Give people hope and...

Give people hope and confidence and see the growth in them. Every extraordinary person needs an extraordinary person to tell them they’re extraordinary before they become extraordinary.

Cognitive Behavioral techniques are grounded in...

Cognitive Behavioral techniques are grounded in the premise that what really upsets and disturbs us is not external events but the way in which we think about those events. It's our interpretation of their significance, the meaning we bring to them that impacts our life the most.

Peace does not mean to be in a...

Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no chaos, trouble, or hard realities to deal with—peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still remain mentally and emotionally centered. Don’t try to empty your mind of all thoughts. Mindfulness means noticing your thoughts, letting them go, and returning to one point of focus. Think of your thoughts as clouds in the sky drifting past.

High ambition without...

High ambition without action is nothing but a fancy dream and wishful thinking. Nothing will change in your life unless you take action and execute your plan.

If you're struggling with...

If you're struggling with situations in your life right now  know that you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to think differently, feel better, and get our lives into a more positive place.

We all want to...

We all want to develop mental  strength, but we can’t think our way to it. Mental strength is built through lots of small victories every day. It’s the choices we make day-to-day that build our mental strength.

Like the muscles in your...

Like the muscles in your body, your mind also requires exercise to gain strength, to grow and develop. If you don't continue to push yourself in little ways every day, you will find that you struggle all the more on the days when things get really difficult.

Time flies

Time flies. The three big decisions - what you do, where you live, and who you’re with.

Think of all the decisions you’ve made that...

Think of all the decisions you’ve made that led you to where you are now. Without those decisions you may be somewhere else, someone else. In the same way, your decisions and choices today will take you in the direction of your dreams.

The thing that makes thoughts so powerful is...

The thing that makes thoughts so powerful is that we can’t see them, at least not on a physical level. But thoughts are constantly shaping our lives and the world. Although they seem invisible, thoughts become many things: To master our thoughts we must bring awareness to them.

It’s hard to break the worry habit if...

It’s hard to break the worry habit if you believe that your worrying has a positive purpose: Worrying helps you avoid bad things, prevents problems, prepares you for the worst. But once you realize that worrying is the problem, not the solution, you regain control over your worry.

Just because this day is...

Just because this day is uncomfortable and stressful, doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be better. You just got to get there.

Remember when you're going through a...

Remember when you're going through a difficult time to always treat yourself with the same kindness you would a close friend in your position. That means no beating yourself up. Show yourself kindness.

Your perception of what’s...

Your perception of what’s happening around you is cultivated through your thoughts and feelings. When things seem dim, it’s because your identification with only the mind as a source of wellbeing is allowing you to see it as such. Take a retreat from the mind with mindfulness.

Some periods of our growth are so...

Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we don’t even recognize that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book or a person who explained to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger than we were before.

Other people may be more...

Other people may be more educated, skilled, or talented in one or another way, but there is something wonderful about you and what you have to offer which is just as equal. So, don't dim your light and diminish your gifts by idolizing everyone else’s and dismissing your own.

When you surround yourself with...

When you surround yourself with people who constantly blame others, criticize, gossip and complain about everything and everyone, you slowly poison your mind and your life with their fears, doubts, and negativity.

Stress is a natural part of...

Stress is a natural part of life, and there’s no getting away from it. Whether it’s day-to-day stresses, like traffic, bills, or major life changes and upheavals, we all get our share of stress. So, there's no point in trying to be stress-free, rather strive to be stress proof.

Where you are now...

Where you are now, whatever your situation is, there is always a way out. It might require a different way of thinking or developing new skills. So, put the past behind you as you can't change it, but you can change your present and when you do, you change your future.

Everybody sees things...

Everybody sees things their way. Nobody wants to see things through the eyes of others. Ability to understand different perspectives is at the root of wisdom.

I truly believe that every...

I truly believe that every single person has to go through something that absolutely destroys them so they can find out who they really are.

It’s tremendously freeing to know you're not...

It’s tremendously freeing to know you're not what happens to you, what others say about you, or the hand you're dealt. You can take those events and choose the meaning of them for yourself.  You can decide how to move forward and how you wish to respond to all things.

The purpose of forgiveness is not to...

The purpose of forgiveness is not to absolve someone of whatever they have done against you; but to free yourself from the pain and the anger that is keeping you stuck. When you forgive, you are better able to let go of the past and keep moving forward with your life.

When things aren’t adding up in...

When things aren’t adding up in your life, begin subtracting. Life gets a lot simpler when you clear the clutter that makes it complicated.

People may claim looks or...

People may claim looks or money aren't everything when picking a mate but when it comes to the crunch, men go for beauty and women choose wealth and security.

It’s all a state of...

It’s all a state of mind. Success begins and ends with your mindset. Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. One allows you to develop the skills needed to succeed in what you want. The other believes you either have those skills and attributes or you don't.

Two of the most powerful questions you can ask...

Two of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself are “What am I feeling?” and “Why am I feeling this?.” Even if the answer seems obvious, you will often surprise yourself. A lot of times we stay stuck in the past because we think we’re feeling something new. The reality is that we’re simply reliving old feelings through new reactions.

Give yourself permission to...

Give yourself permission to feel how you feel! So much of our physical and mental problems come from our inability to process our emotions. We deny, medicate, eat, drink when we're feeling sad, angry and fearful. We bury our feelings, instead of understand why we're hurting.

When good things happen to...

When good things happen to us. We assume they happened because we made good choices. But when bad things happen to us. We assume they happened because of things outside our control. This is called the “self-serving bias”.

Darkness has dragged the veil...

Darkness has dragged the veil over our eyes. Behind what we see is another secret world. Sometimes a little change in perspectives can show something unknown in a brand new light.

Simply said, we are living in an uncivilized time; Neither wild-nor wise. This half thing is a curse.

Someone claiming to be an...

Someone claiming to be an expert has something to sell you.  Experts never refer to themselves as experts. True expertise is seen through knowledge, not labels.

Be the friend who...

Be the friend who encourages others taking a chance and chasing their dreams. They might remember those who doubted them; they definitely won't forget it was you who offered support.

Being open minded doesn't mean...

Being open minded doesn't mean you need to tolerate & agree with everything. It simply means you're curious about how things work, why people think what they think, and are willing to listen. That's all it means. You don't have to accept or tolerate anything you don't agree with.

The thing that makes thoughts so powerful is...

The thing that makes thoughts so powerful is that we can’t see them, at least not on a physical level. But thoughts are constantly shaping our lives and the world. Although they seem invisible, thoughts become many things: To master our thoughts we must bring awareness to them.

Your thoughts and words are not...

Your thoughts and words are not just empty sounds. They have the power to create positive and negative outcomes in your life, and what you attract into your life positive and negative is highly dependent on what you think and talk about the most.

We live two lives: a life through...

We live two lives: a life through our  thoughts and feelings and a life as our experience of the present moment. True freedom comes when we experience life beyond our  psychological make up and allow awareness and presence to be our natural state of being.

Books are appreciated on a...

Books are appreciated on a deeper level when you write one yourself. This may seem like a tall order. Yet, over time, it's not a stretch. 150 years ago, it was strange not to have a patent. In modern times, it will be strange to have never been an author.

You're getting nothing done because...

You're getting nothing done because you're trying to do everything.  We're paralyzing ourselves if we try to do too much at once. Start and complete one task, only then move to the next. One thing at a time.

Always!

In the short term...

In the short term, you are as good as your intensity. In the long term, you are only as good as your consistency.

When we react negatively to our...

When we react negatively to our own negative emotions, thinking of them as something to be eliminated, and defeated, we get into trouble. Reactions to unhappiness can change what might just be a brief, passing sadness into a persistent dissatisfaction and overall unhappiness.

When the world assigns you...

When the world assigns you pressure, you get nervous. When you assign yourself pressure, you get creativity. Assign yourself the most pressure. Eventually, the negative stigma regarding the word will fall off. And energy will take its place.

Good explanations are...

Good explanations are acts of creativity. They’re not derived from looking at the past.

Every time you choose a...

Every time you choose a positive thought or a positive action even if you don't do it all the time, you change the course of your life. You start being positive by being less negative and then see how the change impacts your life in a different way.

To be more grateful focus on...

To be more grateful focus on what you have:  The people you love, the opportunities that are around you, the things you enjoy doing, the time you have, the place you live in, and the friends that you have. Grateful people live great lives.

Think of all the decisions you’ve made that...

Think of all the decisions you’ve made that led you to where you are now. Without those decisions you may be somewhere else, someone else. In the same way, your decisions and choices today will take you in the direction of your dreams.

Life is too short to...

Life is too short to not absorb as much wisdom as possible. And the ultimate test of your knowledge is your ability to transfer it to another.

Control your body with...

Control your body with your actions. Control your mind with your thinking.

The clearer the vision, the more dangerous the man.

In times of crisis...

In times of crisis stay calm, be honest, practice empathy and diligence. Be adaptable and understand emotions will run high. And NEVER, EVER lose hope.

The clearest sign of intellectual chemistry...

The clearest sign of intellectual chemistry isn't agreeing with someone. It's enjoying your disagreements with them. Harmony is the pleasing arrangement of different tones, voices, or instruments, not the combination of identical sounds.

Creative tension makes beautiful music.

Never discredit your gut instinct

Never discredit your gut instinct. You're not paranoid. Your body can pick up on bad vibes. If something deep inside of you says something isn't right. Whether it's about a person or a situation. Trust it.

The longer you go through...

 The longer you go through life believing you’re a victim, the longer you’ll remain unhappy.

My advice?

Delete the contact,

Delete the chat,

Delete the pictures.

Move on.

It happened! But it is not there anymore.

We have to normalize changes in our lives. We cannot keep on living in the past. That is gonna hurt your mind and your soul every day.

Most enjoyable feeling is that...

Most enjoyable feeling is that feeling of satisfaction you get from the pursuit of knowledge, when you do it because you want to, it's fun, and you also get paid for it. That's triple value for your time.

Holding on to stuff that...

Holding on to stuff that no longer holds true value to you only weighs you down in body, mind and spirit. Trust the process. Live! 

It's a waste of energy offering a false sense of...

It's a waste of energy offering a false sense of positivism when you don’t believe it. Your mind will reject anything that isn’t true for you. So, instead, just learn to move to a more  neutral state by being less negative about life in general.

Moving forward from any difficult time is...

Moving forward from any difficult time is  about making small steps - learning new ways to do things as you go along. You're always only taking your next best step, not allowing what has taken place in your past or what could happen in your future over rule your choice now.

We will be unhappy, angry, lost...

We will be unhappy, angry, lost, empty, frustrated, disappointed even fearful and depressed at times. Unfortunately, there is no bypass to difficult times.

In disagreement with loved ones...

 In disagreement with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

Your inner critic limits you...

Your inner critic limits you and robs you of peace of mind and emotional well-being. Like it or not, everything you say to yourself matters. So don't let negative self-talk go unchecked.

People can’t feel what...

People can’t feel what you are going through. They aren’t living your life!  So, let go of what they say about you. There is great freedom in leaving others to their opinions. And there is a huge weight lifted when you take nothing personally.

Don’t deny the...

Don’t deny the signs, vibes, and energy you feel about certain people and certain situations. If it’s not right, it’s not right.

You may meet bad people, end up in...

You may meet bad people, end up in awkward situations, have things taken from you, or lose something important to you. But you shouldn’t take these things personally. People leave, they argue or are mean because they have their own problems going on. You don’t need anyone to make you feel good and to start living, so stop waiting for them to arrive in your life. It's just a reason your mind creates that keeps you from dealing with and accepting things as they are.

Just because you learned...

Just because you learned something one way doesn’t mean you learned it the best or right way. And just because something was true in the past, doesn’t make it true in the present. Remember, you can see the world differently now than you have before.

Getting to anything better whether...

Getting to anything better whether it's finances, relationship, job or some other aspect of life that needs to be improved is not about reaching an outcome. It's about developing a mindset, that allows you to think, feel and believe that all situations can be continually improved.

Re imagine your life, how do you...

Re imagine your life, how do you want it to be? Don't base your future off of where you are now and the skills and abilities you have right now. Transform your life, don't create a to do list that is bound by what you think and believe is possible today.

There are several aspects to forgiveness with...

There are several aspects to forgiveness with different approaches to changing our cognition, emotions, and behaviour. If we are to forgive we must have a readiness to forgive and that is a process which includes acceptance, perspective changing, and benefit finding.

Make everyone...

Make everyone replaceable. Never let anyone be a pillar in your life. You owe no loyalty to people who bring you down!

You can have a bad...

You can have a bad day, get a little discouraged, even shed a tear. But then pick yourself up and move forward again. You've a great life awaiting you regardless of how things might look today.

There are plenty of things that will...

There are plenty of things that will try your patience, these days, you don't have to be one of them. Life gets a lot easier when you are your own best friend. So don’t forget about you out there and  don’t be too hard on yourself in these difficult times.

It’s not up to you to

It’s not up to you to convince others to change their way of thinking. It's your job to live by example and let others see the way you’re choosing to think and live. They will then see the rewards that come as a consequence of your thinking and behaving.

I believe the 5 stages of loss...

I believe the 5 stages of loss - denial, anger, bargaining, sadness & acceptance play a big part as our lives change. We may not experience all stages & stay longer even get stuck in others. But the quicker we get to 'acceptance' and it is a process the sooner we move forward.

When you're dealing with...

When you're dealing with any kind of loss - a loved one, a relationship, a job, you will experience good & bad days as your moods change as you move through stages of - denial, anger, bargaining, sadness &  acceptance. Your feelings are valid, and part of the process of healing.

3 Rules of Life

1. If you don't go after what you want, you will never have it. 

2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 

3. If you do not step forward, you will remain in the same place.

Being positive means that...

Being positive means that you respond to difficult situations in a more constructive rather than destructive manner. It  doesn’t mean that you live in a world of rainbows and unicorns, where you ignore life’s less pleasant times.

Stop being so available to...

Stop being so available to people who are only there for you when it’s convenient for them. And train your mind to think everything is working in your favour.

When you surrender your...

When you surrender your attachment to things having to be a certain way, you create a space of allowing and a moment when you can connect to your higher self. This subtle shift in consciousness is all that's needed to hear the voice of your Spirit Being that lives within.

There isn’t one simple road to...

There isn’t one simple road to healing. You may have to try different paths to find the one that works for you. If you're struggling right now remember,  you've fought difficulty times before and you can do it again.