Your trauma doesn't...

Your trauma doesn't give you the right to hurt others. Break the cycle by healing yourself with love. Then you'll pass on love, instead of pain.

In some way we're all a product of...

In some way we're all a product of our past and experiences, but that doesn’t mean we have to be defined by our past or cling to a time that is now only a memory. When we are brave enough to say goodbye to a past that is over, life will bring forth a new future to begin.

The key to listening well is to...

The key to listening well is to experience the world through the eyes of someone else. See what they see. Feel what they feel. That doesn't mean you have to agree.

We influence others, we touch them and...

We influence others, we touch them and a piece of us sticks with them, no matter what. Be kind, be honest and true. Do your best, for in the end that is all that matters, maybe you won't be remembered forever, but a part of you will always keep existing in those you changed.

You change your thinking not only to...

You change your thinking not only to be more optimistic but to allow your mind to grow and expand. Through an open healthy thinking mind you can look at everything that hasn’t worked out for you and uncover other ways that might.

Not all the puzzle pieces of...

Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize they do. So thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will.

It's true that not everyday is...

It's true that not everyday is a good day but there's always something good in each day. In fact, our mood changes hour to hour, because our thoughts and emotions do. When you do find your mood shifting. STOP for a moment and just consider one small thing you can do to lift it.

Value yourself for who...

Value yourself for who you are, and don't allow others to dictate your value. Trust yourself, think for yourself, form your own opinions, and make your own decisions. And most importantly refuse to compare yourself to others. You are unique so there is no one else like you.

Where you are now, whatever your...

Where you are now, whatever your situation is, there is always a way out. It might require a different way of thinking or developing new skills. So, put the past behind you as you can't change it, but you can change your present and when you do, you change your future.

You will never find your worth in...

You will never find your worth in another person — you find it in yourself, and then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy. Stop waiting for others to tell you how important you are. Tell yourself right now!

To be more grateful focus on...

To be more grateful focus on what you have:  The people you love, the opportunities that are around you, the things you enjoy doing, the time you have, the place you live in, and the friends that you have. Grateful people live great lives.

You may have been beaten down by...

You may have been beaten down by adversity and sidetracked by rejection, but it did not break you. So let no one even your mind convince you otherwise. Stand up, and appreciate yourself for who you are, quirks and all.

There is no shame in...

There is no shame in feeling stuck and somewhat lost. The key to moving forward is to make choices that invite new possibilities – new ways of thinking, feeling, behaving and living so that one choice today, creates easier choices tomorrow.

Think of all the decisions...

Think of all the decisions you’ve made that led you to where you are now. Without those decisions you may be somewhere else, someone else. In the same way, your decisions and choices today will take you in the direction of your dreams.

There are no certainties in...

There are no certainties in life; no one knows exactly what the future will bring. So, your best strategy for living better and creating your best life is to make the best and most positive use of the present moment, even when it’s far from what you'd like it to be right now.

Future goals, the vision you have for...

Future goals, the vision you have for your future is about setting a direction. You don't have to figure it all out today, you just have to take that first step in the direction of what you truly want.

Just because you are...

Just because you are struggling, doesn't mean you're not learning. Every setback has something to teach you, and everything you learn helps you grow. If you are unwilling to learn, no one can help you; if you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

You are not what has...

You are not what has happened to you, but what you choose to become. However, it takes courage to leave the past behind and take that first step forward. But in doing so, you find the way out of the hard and dark times and into the light of new and better ones.

Moving on is always...

Moving on is always uncomfortable, no matter the circumstances. We tend to reflect on the “good” and seldom acknowledge what made us move on to begin with. It is not easy, but if you choose to move on, move on. Reflection is useful, just be mindful not to live in the past.

Don’t put your life on...

Don’t put your life on pause, waiting for the right career, the perfect relationship, or the pile of money. Focus on the best of what you have right now and be creative with it. Live with the intention that everything you want will arrive into your life.

The best thing to do during a conversation is...

The best thing to do during a conversation is actually listen to what the other party said instead of waiting for them to finish so you can start.

Not everyone is your friend or...

Not everyone is your friend or has your best interest in mind. Wish them well and find better friends. Friends that support you, call you on your crap, clap & celebrate your success and want the best for you... these are the people you want in you corner for life!

It’s tremendously freeing to...

It’s tremendously freeing to know you're not what happens to you, what others say about you, or the hand you're dealt. You can take those events and choose the meaning of them for yourself.  You can decide how to move forward and how you wish to respond to all things.

People can’t feel what...

People can’t feel what you are going through. They aren’t living your life!  So, let go of what they say about you. There is great freedom in leaving others to their opinions. And there is a huge weight lifted when you take nothing personally.

Find the balance between...

Find the balance between being happy with who you are and where you are now, while moving towards your potential and best life. Never being satisfied with where you are, or with what you have achieved so far in life, is being unkind to yourself.

Stress is a natural part of...

Stress is a natural part of life, and there’s no getting away from it. Whether it’s day-to-day stresses, like traffic, bills, or major life changes and upheavals, we all get our share of stress. So, there's no point in trying to be stress-free, rather strive to be stress proof.

Life won't look much different while...

Life won't look much different while you stay within the limits of what you already know and do. Open your mind and allow new things to enter. When you have hope that tomorrow can be better, you can bear the hardships of today. You do have the power to make life better.

It's hard to accept what...

It's hard to accept what you don't want to be true. But acceptance doesn't mean liking or agreeing with the situation, rather allowing life to be as it is right now. It's okay to feel how you do, in fact, it's beneficial to be present with and allow the feelings to flow and pass.

Emotions feel overwhelming at...

Emotions feel overwhelming at times. That's because we keep thinking or giving our attention to what's causing them, which is mostly never the problem, but our minds narrative about the problem. The result is that we get stuck in a self perpetuating cycle of discomfort.

To be more grateful focus on...

To be more grateful focus on what you have:  The people you love, the opportunities that are around you, the things you enjoy doing, the time you have, the place you live in, and the friends that you have. Grateful people live great lives.

It’s not that you always have to...

It’s not that you always have to get it right; In fact, it’s not reasonable to think every choice you make will be the right one. When you’re uncertain, take direction from your inner wisdom and you will be guided to what is the next best step for you right now.

What truly makes a difference is...

What truly makes a difference is how you deal with the things that don’t go your way. You only learn how strong you are when being strong is the only choice you have. So be strong and resilient because you are capable of remarkable things in your life.

Learning something new puts you...

Learning something new puts you in a position of weakness. If you’re not willing to step into the weakness you’ll never become strong. The willingness to become weak is the precursor for transformation.

Within being uncomfortable lies the...

Within being uncomfortable lies the opportunities to learn, to grow and to transform. Challenging times can bring into your life new ways of doing things, hidden talents and an inner stength that would probably have gone uncovered without them.

Be open to all the options that are...

Be open to all the options that are available to you today and know that getting things wrong is part of getting them right. You have permission to change your mind. Just because you choose a direction doesn't mean you're committed to that path forever.

There is no bypass to...

There is no bypass to difficult times. We will be unhappy, angry, lost, empty, frustrated, disappointed even fearful and depressed at times. They are experiences we may all go through in our lives but they are not places to stay. They are temporary stops on our journey.

Value yourself for...

Value yourself for who you are, and don't allow others to dictate your value. Trust yourself, think for yourself, form your own opinions, and make your own decisions. And most importantly refuse to compare yourself to others. You are unique so there is no one else like you.

There is always a...

There is always a different, kinder, better way to treat yourself that doesn’t involve destructive self-talk. In any given situation you can always focus on what you did wrong or what you did well and what you can do better next time. Find your better way.

Being rejected, let down, or betrayed can...

Being rejected, let down, or betrayed can trigger feelings of sadness, anxiety, or anger. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings, rather than trying to shove them down. You can’t stop people from acting badly but you don’t have to let it derail you.

The thing with giving up on...

The thing with giving up on things too soon is you never know. You never know whether you could have put in the effort and done something incredible with your life. So, keep going because there is something more for you to share with the world.

The sad truth is that...

The sad truth is that most of us are our own worst enemy, allowing our negative thoughts and how they make us feel and act, hold us back. However, If you load up on healthy thoughts, thoughts that help you feel and act better, you can create great things for yourself.

Whether it's a...

Whether it's a relationship with us, our families, our jobs, or our possessions, all relationships give us a sense of meaning and purpose, and a perception of who we are. So, when a relationship is damaged or lost we also lose for a time that meaning and a bit of who we are.

Holding on to what...

Holding on to what didn't work out or that has passed only prevents you from moving into your new stronger sense of self, a self that isn’t defined by the mistakes of yesterday and a past that is over, but by who you are becoming, now, because of what you have been through.

If you make a habit of...

If you make a habit of putting off things until tomorrow, the new habits you want to acquire and the changes you want to make will always be difficult to manifest.  Tomorrow is a constantly moving target. Today is the only days you make things happen.

Sometimes life requires us to...

Sometimes life requires us to start over and rebuild from scratch. But in order to create a new way of living we have to be willing to let go of the way we use to do things and how life was.

Everything that happens helps...

Everything that happens helps us grow even though it doesn't feel like that when we're struggling with the situation. Sometimes painful experiences teach us priceless life lessons that awaken us to our higher power and a way forward that we couldn't see before.

It’s not our problems that...

It’s not our problems that shape who we are, but who we are in the face of our problems. Don’t let your problems be your identity. You are so much greater than any problem you could ever face. 

Holding on to stuff that...

Holding on to stuff that no longer holds true value to you only weighs you down in body, mind and spirit, so for the sake of your mental and physical health it’s a good idea to purge all the negativity and waste from your life.

Be open to all the options that...

Be open to all the options that are available to you today and know that getting things wrong is part of getting them right. You have permission to change your mind. Just because you choose a direction doesn't mean you're committed to that path forever.

You’ve climbed mountains...

You’ve climbed mountains you thought you’d never surpass. You’ve confronted situations that took you to the darkest of times. Yet here you are, still standing. Because every day you picked yourself up and carried yourself forward. You’re a true survivor.

Don't beat yourself up when...

Don't beat yourself up when you make mistakes. Why you might ask? Well, making a mistake even though it can be painful, teaches you about life and what works and doesn't for you. If you learn from a mistake and embrace the lesson your life can get better because of it.

Give yourself permission...

Give yourself permission to feel how you feel!
So much of our physical and mental problems come from our inability to process our emotions. We deny, medicate, eat, and drink when we're feeling sad, angry and fearful. We bury our feelings; instead of understand why we're hurting.

Life brings no guarantees...

Life brings no guarantees no matter what we do. But regardless it's important to do our very best to make the most of every situation. Every experience has some form of value and benefit and no matter what happens, in the end, things always have a way of working out.

There are times when...

There are times when we inevitably have to be alone, and we need to be able to make the best of those moments. Once you get to know yourself better, you may really enjoy that cup of coffee all by yourself. No people, no phone, no thinking, just you and the present moment.

If you allow your attention...

If you allow your attention to be consumed with every obstacle you encounter, you'll always feel defeated and powerless. But when you notice and cheer for each little victory as they happen, you say to yourself “I can do this", you'll feel more confident and motivated.

Value yourself for who you are...

Value yourself for who you are, and don't allow others to dictate your value. Trust yourself, think for yourself, form your own opinions, and make your own decisions. And most importantly refuse to compare yourself to others. You are unique so there is no one else like you.

Be your own biggest cheerleader...

Be your own biggest cheerleader and work towards overcoming obstacles instead of calling yourself names and assuming the worst will happen.  The longer you continue to criticize yourself no matter what you do or how hard you try, you make it impossible to achieve what you desire.

If you weren't born to...

If you weren't born to a great family, make sure you create one.

It's on your shoulders to ensure you do a better job than your parents did. Being born to a wonderful family is one of the greatest unearned blessings a person could ever have, and all yearn for it.

You never lose anyone...

You never lose anyone important from your life by saying no.

When you say no, you drop the freeloaders, attention seekers, abusers, users, etc. They are the very people not worth having in your life in the first place.

Loving yourself costs nothing.

Loving yourself costs nothing; it's totally free and the only real thing that can make you and your life complete. We all love the idea of others loving us, but we forget ourselves in that idea.

The only thing...

The only thing that's guaranteed in your life (besides death) is that you'll be rejected.

When you're having a bad day...

When you're having a bad day, acknowledge it and remind yourself that you've had days like this before and that they don't usually last and things do get better. Giving yourself a different perspective on what’s happening will help you cope better with challenging days.

Some things are better off ignored than attacked

Some things are better off ignored than attacked.

Attention is the oxygen of conflict. When you fight a problem, you breathe life into it. When you starve a problem of your attention, you suffocate it. In a surprising number of cases, the way to solve a problem is to ignore it.

Regardless of the situation...

Regardless of the situation we find ourselves in, we can choose how we respond to it. Even if we cannot change the situation itself, we can choose to change how we look at it and how we respond to it. And in our response lie our growth and our freedom.

Life is full of surprises.

Life is full of surprises. And that is a good thing. But by expecting the worst to happen, you complicate life and make it hard. So let go of the need to predict and control everything. "Stuff" happens and all you can really do is handling it the best you can when it does.

What we believe about something...

What we believe about something either allows us to take the steps to reach our goals or keep us stuck chained to the belief that what we want is not possible. But every belief started as a thought, and by our attention to it and constant repetition of it, it grew into a belief.

 

Creating the life you desire...

Creating the life you desire also means being able to ask for what you want. Don't be afraid to vocalize your needs. You'll be surprised at how often people will respond positively to you when you honestly and clearly communicate what you want.

Honor the friendships...

Honor the friendships that allow you to pick up from where you last left off, regardless of how long it's been since you connected. The friendships that survive hiatuses, silences and space, those are the connections that never die.

Thoughts and feelings...

Thoughts and feelings will come, they will stay, and then they will go. No thought or feeling stays forever. Be patient and know that whatever you are feeling, or whatever you are thinking, it will pass.

We all have a tendency to...

We all have a tendency to underestimate our resilience! Right now you have a 100% success rate at overcoming difficult situations. You are far more capable of overcoming tough times than you believe. You've done it before and you'll do it again.

We often overthink because...

We often overthink because we feel uncertain even scared of what could go wrong in the future. We feel that if we solve potential problems in our head that we'll be better prepared for the challenges if they happen. But that is just our mind tricking us and keeping us stuck.

When you struggle and fight...

When you struggle and fight against something that you can’t change, you prolong the negative feelings and the unhealthy thinking that comes along with it. What you resist will only persist.

If a decision is reversible...

If a decision is reversible and inconsequential, make it as soon as possible. Speed matters.

If a decision is irreversible and consequential, gather as much information as possible before deciding. Wait until the last possible moment. Being right matters.

Most of us get comfortable with...

Most of us get comfortable with our lives. So when change happens it can be a source of frustration, fear and stress. We prefer the security of what we know even when it's not what we want. But change is unavoidable, and how we react, determines the outcome we manifest.

 

Unfortunately the act of kindness...

Unfortunately the act of kindness can be forgotten in the chaos of our daily lives. But a single kind word, a simple gesture, a helping hand a surprise visit can brighten someone else's day. Kindness is a gift we all have to offer every day.

Stop looking behind...

Stop looking behind at what has happened and start looking in front of you at what is possible.

What I've learned is that...

What I've learned is that relapsing is part of recovering. There isn’t one simple road to healing. You may have to try different paths to find the one that works for you. If you're struggling right now remember, you’ve fought difficulty times before and you can do it again.

What you're thinking about...

What you're thinking about today is either helping you grow or holding you back. Give your attention to what is most important and what will move you forward. And make the decision to let go of what does not.

Whenever you find yourself looking back...

Whenever you find yourself looking back, don’t think of the pain you went through but rather the strength you gained. And although you’ve been through a lot, you’ve grown a lot too. You’ve come along way so give yourself credit for what you've done and continue to do every day.

 

Don't be your own enemy...

Don't be your own enemy, allowing negative thoughts and how they make you feel and act, hold you back. Instead load up on healthy thoughts - thoughts that help you feel and act better and you will in time create great things for your life.

Give yourself some...

Give yourself some kindness and understanding. Self-compassion during difficult times is vital for our mental well-being. Compassion for ourselves doesn't diminish our capacity to care for others. Rather it enhances our ability to be even more compassionate toward others.

Be open to all the options...

Be open to all the options that are available to you today and know that getting things wrong is part of getting them right. You have permission to change your mind. Just because you choose a direction doesn't mean you're committed to that path forever.

Sometimes we need to...

Sometimes we need to journey to the deepest, darkest, scariest, most painful places in order to reach the next level. That is what happened to me, but years later my life is better than ever and I love every day. And so if I can do it you can make your life better too.

Life won't look much different

 Life won't look much different while you stay within the limits of what you already know and do. Open your mind and allow new things to enter. When you have hope that tomorrow can be better, you can bear the hardships of today. You do have the power to make life better.

Recognize the power of...

Recognize the power of just one thing. One small step in the right direction today will allow you to take further steps tomorrow. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once. One small thing today will change where you start tomorrow.

Never let a few days of falling...

Never let a few days of falling back into old ways of doing things discourage you from continuing to re-establish the new changes you're making in your life. On hard days, practice self-kindness not self destruction. They are just bad days and we all get them, even me.

Sometimes adapting to upheaval requires...

Sometimes adapting to upheaval requires the willingness to try new things. However, we tend to resist change, especially when we feel threatened. But adaptation ,even to small changes is liberating. The more we learn to adapt the more we'll be able to cope with difficult things.

There is only one person...

There is only one person you will have a relationship with for all of your life and that’s yourself. So, you better start making sure that you’re a good companion. Live your best life by being kind to yourself, every day.

If you can't get positive thoughts...

If you can't get positive thoughts to change your negative ones, you can take positive actions to do it. Start doing things you would want to do if you were feeling good. After a few efforts you will find that your actions can change your thinking and in turn how you feel.